Random surfing jumpers

[baavgai]

Of all the live journals I've randomly come across, I found this the most compelling. I read it the day it was posted, I'm a concerned he hasn't posted since then.

However, sometimes I see a blog where I say to myself, "damn, I remember that feeling," and I want reach out with a big, text based, hug. Sadly, such logs are often old or locked.

Today I found one that was locked to only friends. I found this out after a typing a nice long post. And I still want to tell her. I poked around her blog, there is not contact info. Alas.

Still, reading over what I wrote, it's reasonable advice for anyone in that "people suck!" state of mind. So, I decided to post my comment here and put her on my friends list in the hopes she'll be curious enough to take a peek. If not, perhaps this will do it for some other random blog surfer.

So, to summerbum in response to this.

Don't Drink the Kool-Aid!

Random blog surfing has brought me... here. And I couldn't contain myself.

Look, everyone is selfish. It's the only perspective we honestly have. Growing out of it is a long, slow, process that is hopefully completed before we leave home. Though, sadly, I've known fifty year olds that are still as self absorbed as teenagers.

Still, the shift from being selfish yourself to being aware enough of others to see their isolation is a major one. It's part of growing up and taking responsibility and control of your life and your actions. It's not bad, or a waste, just disillusioning.

Consider, ever decision you make is a B.A.D. decision. That is, Best Available Data. You make a choice given what you know at that very moment and it is the best one the you of that moment could possibly make at that time. Looking back, you have more information and can criticize the choice, with the knowledge of the outcome and other factors you weren't aware of at the time.

Judging past choices is futile, you're done and you did your best. Learning from those choices so you don't repeat the bad ones is what some people call wisdom.

Don't despair. It's all a learning experience. Consider yourself wiser now.

I hope this doesn't come off as a bloody late night self help spiel. It's just that I've been through this kind of crap before and deeply sympathize. You will get over it. And try not to judge everyone too harshly, they really know not what they do.